Moving forward

You know when you have those days where you find yourself falling into a bit of a hole of looking backwards instead of forwards? Maybe something reminds you of something hurtful someone close to you did, a painful memory, or something you've not quite completely got past yet.


Stumbling across an image that hurts with the memories it brings back, sometimes you'll be reminded by simply a word, from the mouth of someone completely oblivious to the pain it's going to inflict, then there are others that may do it less unknowingly...

I think I know the answer to this, but is there any way to prevent it?! Not really I guess, other than distracting yourself as quickly as you can so as not to sink into it or dwell on things.  I know things can take time to move on from, and some will never be *completely* gone from your memory, but you've just got to keep in mind it's in the past I guess.  I do myself a cuppa and watch something funny, distracting or talk to get on to chat to some buds to try take my mind off it.  What do you do when you get these feelings and focus on looking forward?

I guess the past is always there no matter what you do so it's inevitable that we'll be reminded of it at some point and I shouldn't beat myself up over it, but it does get me down.  It's not regular though at least.  Any thoughts or advice are still appreciated :)

Becky x



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